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How Stress Is Making Me Bald At 31

6 Jun

Since having the toddler 3 years ago I’ve been shedding hair faster than a snake sheds its skin. Of course the doctor told me I was only losing the extra hair I’d gained during my pregnancy! He looked at me with a slight smile as I protested that actually my hair had began thinning during my pregnancy! Seriously, there were no luscious locks in need of shedding here! The look on his face said it all… He thought that I was overreacting… My panic, unjustified!

As a child, teenager and young woman in her early twenties, my hair was thick and healthy. During my later twenties and drawing closer to the big 30, my hair was struggling to keep up. Now as I write this, age 31, my hair is so thin you can just see my scalp. I have some noticeable patches to the front area of my head.

Another visit to the doctor almost 3 years following the first and my worse fears are confirmed… My hair is falling out! Why? I’m told its stress!

If I was going to lose eyebrows and lashes then it would have happened already… Well, I guess that’s something positive at least!

I’ve read about this happening to both children and adults, both men and women. Some people lose all their hair in a speedy fashion and sadly experience no regrowth. Others are more fortunate and the hair comes out at a much slower pace and new hair continues to grow, only at a far slower pace (looks thin but not noticeably bald). I kind of fall within the latter, only now I’m losing the hair faster than ever before and I suspect that the regrowth of my hair is much slower!

Annoyingly, I don’t over style my hair, I use heat defence spray when blow drying and despite owning GHDs straighteners I’m careful and don’t use them on a daily basis! Whenever I do straighten my hair I do well to protect it by opting for a good heat protector and intensive conditioning treatment. So… Why do I consider the above to be so annoying? Its simple… I’ve taken steps to avoid damaging my hair only to discover I’m literally forcing it from my scalp with the power of my mind alone. As I sit worrying about certain happenings in my life somehow its my hair (whats left of it) paying the price.

Yes… I’ve felt somewhat stressed, more so these past few months for sure. There are a lot of things happening in life right now, not only I, but my family as a whole have been dealing with a lot stuff of late. Its the type of stuff that makes you sick with worry and no matter what you do its one of those situations that are way beyond your control. Yes, this is stress at its worse, the type fuelled by worrisome thoughts that when combined with other everyday pressures, they become extremely explosive! The end result… A 31 year old women preparing to wig shop!

As some may expect, I went through the motions… Checked the mirror every 20 minutes as so to ensure their was still hair on my head, brushed my thinning hair ever so gently and lastly… I used all the “miracle” hair treatments, the ones promising hair like that of Cheryl Coles.

But no more! I’m now just getting on with things! After all worrying about something that is caused by stress isn’t going to get me anywhere now is it? I’ve decided that I’m going to have fun with what hair is left on my head, starting with colouring it pink… Yes pink! I’m using a less harmful colour treatment and may even throw in a little blue if I’m feeling adventurous. Why? You might ask? Well… Why not?

I’ve come to realise that in life there are much more pressing issues then that of my fading hairline. By adapting this attitude I could also be doing my hair some good. However do I expect to correct an issue caused by stress if I’m stressing even more as a result?

Its all about the inner issues and its them that I’m concentrating on banishing. We as parents, human beings even, will always be stressing about something! I’ve just got to learn to let it out and deal with things in a more productive way, rather then letting it go to my head… Literally!

IT’S ALL ABOUT AUTISM & ASPERGER’S

14 Oct

How many people in this world can tell us what the word Asperger’s means ? It’s shocking that despite the high percentage  of people now diagnosed as having ASD, It’s still not known or it’s just greatly misunderstood!

ASD stands for Autism Spectrum Disorder. Asperger’s is a high functioning form of Autism that is on that very spectrum. Being a mother of three beautiful fantastic children one in which has been diagnosed as having Aspergers is an amazing experience for me. I love being a mum and feel it to be my life’s purpose! This blog has been created as place I can express myself, Get heard, raise awareness, stress rant and rave ( some of the time 🙂 ) But most importantly a place for me to share this amazing boy who has this gift, The boy I’m so proud to call my son! Having a child with Asperger’s or ASD doesn’t mean the end of the world! Far from it! God it can be hard and at times you feel like screaming but it’s also incredibly rewarding. ASD is not an illness but a condition. If you look for a cure I’m sorry but I don’t believe you will find one. My advise to you would be embrace and love your child. Aspergers can be seen as a gift! There will be many battles to fight and problems to resolve but there will also be many times that your Aspie child makes you catch your breath as your heart melts with pride. That I promise you.

By writing this I’m reaching out to other parents and careers of Autistic children. Lets share and advise one another. Let’s keep talking! By doing so we create awareness. If we are not the voices of our children who else will be ?

IF YOU HAVE JUST TAKEN THE BIG STEP INTO MY WORD AND JUST DISCOVERED YOUR CHILD IS ON THE AUTISTIC SPECTRUM. THEN IT’S MY HOPE YOU GAIN SOME UNDERSTANDING AND COMFORT BY READING MY STORY.

This post was updated on the 8th April 2010. This update included a name change and new image.
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