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MUM’S GONE BANANAS IN HER PYJAMAS.

17 Apr

Has Anybody heard about the latest warning signs signaling mental health problems in mothers of young children? Rumor has it that mothers who wear pyjamas at 8.55am In the morning could be suffering from an undiagnosed mental health condition.

Sound crazy? Well the author of this blog does happen to be a loony pyjama wearing momma. So what do you expect?

As a child growing up I was told to never judge, Not to make assumptions about another, No matter what the circumstances. With this I become a firm believer of the saying never judge a book by its cover. So it’s sad that once an adult I discovered that those who are considered to be trusted professionals did not follow this rule. I’m not talking about the unwanted stares and rude comments made during our Autistic childs latest meltdown which always leads to the assumption that your child is nothing but a screaming, argumentative, stubborn brat. Even though yes that’s simultaneously just as annoying. No I’m talking about a professional, one whom you trust is making extreme assumptions based on your appearance at almost 9 am in the morning.

Let me explain as I’m guessing this crazy woman isn’t making much sense. As a Mental Mother of three young children, Ok two at the time! One who has Aspergers and displays a lack of interest in both sleep and school. Why in Gods name would I need to worry about the dress code I have chosen to display when opening my front door to The Educational professional who has finally agreed to pick little man and his sister up for school for a few weeks before the end of spring term? Has the country gone barking mad? Yes I answered my front door at 8.55 am in my pyjamas. I’m guilty what can I say. Does this action give you the right to question my mental state of mind? Did I answer my front door in the nude with a bottle of jacks D in one hand and a Benson&hedges in the other? No I did not So what the hell is the problem. Can’t you put pen to paper and come up with something constructive, Like how best to keep my son in school. After all it’s took a long time and effect on my part to build up some kind of routine and get him to come in at all. I’m sure some fantastic rewarding ideas may come to light if only more time was spent on him instead of these crazy judgemental assumptions so unsparingly given about his mother.

My son started school back in 2005 and since this time I have raised concerns in relation to a number of issues one being little mans reluctance to sleep of a night and another being his refusal to get ready and go to school. Still being assessed at the time and not yet on Melatonin  I was having a pretty crap time of it. Please remember Little man’s awake then it’s pretty likely that mum is too. Lack of sleep if any resulted in my looks having to take a back seat at least for a bit. People I’m not saying I was so tired I stopped washing! NO I’m just pointing out that having dragged Little mans butt out of his Pitt ( Which isn’t easy given his only been in it a meer few hours) Then chasing him all over the house and then pinning him down to dress him, Only to be successful but once your back is turned his back down to his undies and you do the WHOLE  thing again. Yes chasing, pinning and dressing often occurred three sometimes four times before a true result was made ( Thank God we are passed that Now ) This was more than a little time-consuming and extremely tiring I must add. So given this can you see why I may not find time to get myself sorted? Is it actually wrong or selfish that given the fact my child had kept me wake half if not all the night that I may be considering heading for my bed to recharge my batteries ready for the night ahead once the coast was clear? Next time I will be sure to put my face on and dress up in my super mum costume. Yer Right O.

Looking inside my Sons records did I expect to find notes and documents, Some addressed to members of the school and LEA? Maybe I did but I did not expect them to state concerns about my mental wellbeing because I wore Pyjamas. However was I surprised that such assumptions could be made in relation to my Mental state? Absolutely not! Just as I was not surprised to see that mistakes were made. No it wasn’t the Senco that collected the children! That is just one of over 20 inaccuracies and a few other that are utter untruths. Each and everyone can be so easy to prove through letters, note and documents within the same record or those I have of my own.

I also discovered that certain reports that had been written for other professionals within and outside of school refered to my childhood battle with OCD ( Obsessive compulsive disorder ) Which started at the tender age of 7 years. I do not see what bearing this information has in regards to my sons educational needs or diagnosis of Aspergers? It was only spoke of when family medical history was taken on a few of little mans assessments in relation to his diagnosis of Apergers. I had no reason to reframe from sharing such information with the professionals ( Not school ) involved in the care of my son. I’m not ashamed of my OCD just as I’m not ashamed of little mans autism I just don’t understand the reasons behind the schools choice to take the information from an assessment paper relating to little mans condition and then sharing it with others who in my opinion need not know or have no reason to know. I wish my sons diagnosis was so freely shared amongst the same people

It May seem I’m somewhat angry, annoyed and upset as a result of the pyjama MADNESS. I must be otherwise why the long post. I went through three stages… Anger, Upset, Laughter… By the time I wrote this I was pissing my pants. This was because it’s nothing but pure silly nonsense. How can I spend time worrying about this playground name calling. I have bigger worry in my life-like will my child receive the education best suited to his needs? Or how about will my daughter forever suffer as a result of her brothers Aspergers and the effect this has on both their school lives. Am I wrong or are these comments merely they’re to be hurtful or just because who ever wrote them lacked the ability to write something of intelligence. I don’t need to be a Psychologist, Doctor or a Mental Health practitioner to know that pyjamas are not a warrant for a diagnosis of any mental health condition but more suited to whoever wrote such a nasty comment in the first place. Hence the reason I decided to write this before firmly taking it on the chin!

So I fault it would be irresponsibly of me to finish this post without having given readers a WARNING.

Readers do you think you are safe behind the closed doors and the bricks that form your house when you are looking like something the cat dragged in? Don’t be hyping yourself up in the excitement of the prospect of settling down with a hot cuppa coffee and watching a little Jeremy Kyle! Hell No. Be getting yourself looking respectable as you don’t know who’s gonna come knock, knock, knocking on your door and be offended by them betty boo Jim Jams.

APRIL IS AUTISM MADNESS

8 Apr

So Autism Awareness month is here. April is said to be the month to best get heard when reaching out to society when trying to raise awareness for Autism. I consider every month to be awareness month! I blog, talk, share, link, tweet and more It seems to happen naturally now and it just comes easy to me. I am proud to say im passionate about autism. I love autism solely because its part of my son.  Aspergers don’t make little man! Little man makes Aspergers. So for this reason I’m going to blog like mad this April! I’m looking to do at least one interview this April. I really enjoyed them last year and I’m considering bringing back the feature permanently. Guest post will also feature on the blog this April and throughout the rest of the year. The first Guest post is in relation to my day in Court on the 30th March 2010. A friend who attended Court with me has written an interesting  post. She makes fantastic points and has strong opinions it’s in my view a wonderful read.

Over these past few months I have discovered some great links and excellently good blogs that I’m keen to share with readers. Some have been added to the links already.  Pass through regularly?  Then maybe you noticed and gave them a preview. You will also see that a few more blog buttons have been added to the sidebar. If  displayed then in my opinion they are worth a look. With it being April I will be highlighting some fantastic campaigns and non-profit charity’s So if you’re looking for an Autism  charity to fundraise for this April then please I urge you to check these out. The last few months it’s been nothing but doom and gloom within these blog walls. That’s not what I want the blog to be focussed on. I don’t want new visitors, parents of  a newly diagnosed child to look and feel that life is set to be a never-ending challenge. I wont lie when I say with every closing door another seems to open and behind it is a new battle. It seems to be that way  for me right now! But ASD or not! We will always as parents try to gain the best in everything we aim for when it’s for our children. No day is the same! As is no child on the spectrum.  We need less negativity and more positive Input. As little man don’t return to school in till 21st April that gives me plenty of time to spread a little sunshine over the blog.  And lets hope that some day soon school will bring more positive days for little man clearly resulting in a few more uplifting post.

Well in my quest to create a totally  jam-packed Awareness month and not being able to take on the challenge single-handed, I’m gonna need readers help. This is what I’m looking for.

  • A Father of a child on the autism spectrum. I want to hear from the dads who would be interested in sharing their story in an interview with me. Covering diagnosis its impact and what everyday life is like. Check out some of the interviews from 2009. John Kirton from the documentary Autism x6 on Discovery Health was interviewed on the blog last April. Did it raise awareness? Hell yes and it still continues too giving that it’s still one of our most popular post on this blog to date. John a father to not one but six children all placed along the spectrum of autism made for a truly inspirational interview. I’m not requesting you need six children in order to participate in an interview I’m just requesting you’re a father to a child on the Autism spectrum. Email me or comment if interested.
  • Mums tell it how it is. This was a feature due to start last month. However this never happened with the craziness of whats been my life lately. So any spectrum mums who wish to voice important opinions or advise other parents and caregivers on ASD related issues then let me know. I am hoping that the lovely Rachel author of the blog Strange and beautiful would still be happy to share her insights in a talk relating to Sensory sensitivities 🙂
  • Kids art to be put up on the Autism and Art page. Please refer to the page for details.
  • help in our ever-growing Autism Love list. All it takes is for you to visit the page and state your reason for loving Autism. After all it’s within somebody we love. For this reason I say we embrace it. Thank you for the recent comments on the page. If you were one of them commentors then I’m pleased to inform you that your comments have been transformed into something beautiful and are now ready to view as part of the Autism Love List.
  • Now for my big ask!  Are there any autism professionals willing to be interviewed? By professionals I mean specialist teachers, Dr, Educational psychologist, speech and language therapist, behavioural therapist, child psychologist, mental health practitioner or other. There would be no payment for the interview. It would be done by yourself solely for the purpose of helping raise awareness for autism. And for that I would be truly greatful.

Anybody who participates on any part of this blog are very welcome to have a link back to their blog or website.

Autor Clairelouise82 parkinson.claire@yahoo.com

IT’S ALL ABOUT AUTISM & ASPERGER’S

14 Oct

How many people in this world can tell us what the word Asperger’s means ? It’s shocking that despite the high percentage  of people now diagnosed as having ASD, It’s still not known or it’s just greatly misunderstood!

ASD stands for Autism Spectrum Disorder. Asperger’s is a high functioning form of Autism that is on that very spectrum. Being a mother of three beautiful fantastic children one in which has been diagnosed as having Aspergers is an amazing experience for me. I love being a mum and feel it to be my life’s purpose! This blog has been created as place I can express myself, Get heard, raise awareness, stress rant and rave ( some of the time 🙂 ) But most importantly a place for me to share this amazing boy who has this gift, The boy I’m so proud to call my son! Having a child with Asperger’s or ASD doesn’t mean the end of the world! Far from it! God it can be hard and at times you feel like screaming but it’s also incredibly rewarding. ASD is not an illness but a condition. If you look for a cure I’m sorry but I don’t believe you will find one. My advise to you would be embrace and love your child. Aspergers can be seen as a gift! There will be many battles to fight and problems to resolve but there will also be many times that your Aspie child makes you catch your breath as your heart melts with pride. That I promise you.

By writing this I’m reaching out to other parents and careers of Autistic children. Lets share and advise one another. Let’s keep talking! By doing so we create awareness. If we are not the voices of our children who else will be ?

IF YOU HAVE JUST TAKEN THE BIG STEP INTO MY WORD AND JUST DISCOVERED YOUR CHILD IS ON THE AUTISTIC SPECTRUM. THEN IT’S MY HOPE YOU GAIN SOME UNDERSTANDING AND COMFORT BY READING MY STORY.

This post was updated on the 8th April 2010. This update included a name change and new image.
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