Tag Archives: Logical thinking

Celebrating Mothers Day The Aspergers Way

10 Mar

Yesterday evening the little man asked me a question that was prompted by that of one of my own!

My question to him was… ‘Do you know what day it is tomorrow?’

His answer… ‘Um, yes… Its Sunday’

I then informed him that actually it was Mothering Sunday (aka Mother’s Day) to which he replied…

‘Oh, is it!’

Then came his question that actually really got me thinking for the duration of the evening!

‘Why?’ He asked!

Followed by…

‘What’s the point? Why do mothers need to have a special day? Why don’t we celebrate our son’s by having a. Son Day?’

‘Because mothers do lots for their children and its a day for their children to appreciate this’ I reminded him! To which his response was…

‘But you tell me I must appreciate you always’

Yes… I Give him that, he has a point!

Then he went on to ask…

‘Mum, honestly… Do you not see that its just a way for everyone to make money!’

You see, that’s the joys of having a child on the spectrum! Such logical little thinkers who don’t really dress anything up to make it sound pretty.

I was then informed that unless his dad had brought me a card then maybe I shouldn’t expect to much as I know how much he struggles with drawing and colouring.

He means no offence… honestly.His just saying it how it is! Actually I wouldn’t expect anything less!

Does it upset me that he fails to notice that his sister is busy in the next room preparing a work of art with glue and tissue paper? Does it make me sad that his all zoned out chatting to his online friends about the world of Mindcraft rather than showering his mother in Mother’s Day kisses? No! OK, may it used to a little, but it doesn’t anymore! Why? Because without sounding corny he is a gift in himself, all my children are.

Little man has been off school a couple of days this week with the flu and I normally find that school is the place that gives him those gentle little reminders when such occasions as these arise.

I remember when he was in primary school and every year when they made cards to mark the celebration of Mother’s Day, little man’s cards would always feature trains or buses, normally with a stick man and an arrow with the words ‘Me.. Driving the bus’ spilled out above it. I remember standing talking to a mother as we waited for our children to be released at the end of the school day. Her child came rushing out and almost forced a card into her hand. I can clearly remember the design, one that displayed an almost 3D image of pretty Daffodils. The centres of each flower made with sections of a painted egg cartons, petals made of yellow tissue paper and pipe cleaners proudly displayed as storks. Little man didn’t run out and hand me a card he was to much in a rush to get home to his sanctuary (aka bedroom). By now myself, this mother and our children were now walking side by side out of the school gates when she suddenly asked.. ‘Where is your card’ I was half convinced I didn’t have one but before I could say anything, little man had rooted around in his book bag and had now presented me with one! I smiled… that proud mummy smile as I looked a my card that of course displayed a somewhat different image from that of the other mothers card! Yes… A little stick man, only this time, that little stick man was driving a train as opposed to a bus.

“Does mummy drive trains” the mother asked my little man in her cheeky giggly tone.

Now I can’t quite remember his response, we are talking back when he was around 7 years old and still in the infants section of primary school. What I do remember was that his response was one of the “No Nonsense Type” as he rightfully pointed out that my hair was much longer than that of the hair on his stick man and the important factor that mum wouldn’t know if she liked driving trains as she has never driven one! Mum can’t even drive a car!

The mother smiled before she went on to wrongfully state that “Mothers” prefer flowers for Mother’s Day!

I was quick to correct her mistake when announcing that actually this “Mother” prefers trains!

You see little man wasn’t really one to pick up a pencil and start to draw unless prompted to do so. He struggled with his fine motor skills and even though he was yet to receive an official diagnosis of Aspergers, I’d always known that their was something stopping him from expressing himself on paper. So, the fact that he’d actually made this card for me and drawn it by himself was actually better than that of a hundred Daffodils made from egg cartons and tissue paper.

Every year up in till year 4 of his primary school years, he made me this card (always almost the same). Sadly once in year 4 things really started changing. It was this year major concerns began to arise. It was the year of illegal exclusions, disability discrimination and constant battles with both the school and LEA. My little man just stopped picking up a pencil/pen whatsoever. He wrote less then a sentence in a whole school year and carried on this way in till I removed him in year 5. It was only once he started with a one 2 one tutor instead of attending school (at this point no school were willing to take him) that slowly he began writing and drawing again.

I guess that my point is that each one of my three beautiful children all make me proud to be a mother. For us there is no traditional way to celebrate a Mothering Sunday… In our house we tend to do things the Aspergers way like we do almost any other day!

Happy Mothers Day. Xxx

20130310-061430.jpg

Dioctipoid – The puzzle for the logical thinker!

12 Feb

A few weeks back I received an email asking me if I would be interested in conducting a review on a new range of puzzles called “Dioctipoid”

The Dioctipoid resembles something of the classic Rubic cube except Dioctipoid isn’t a cube it’s actually a ball!

Little man (aka, a boy with aspergers) is rather good when it comes to this type of thing! Yes, there are numerous situations where Little man isn’t so great at “Thinking outside the box” yet, puzzles requiring logic, doesn’t seem to be one of them.

Dioctipoids are made up of both white and brightly coloured triangles, to solve the , players must rotate each segment around the arrow, the puzzle is complete once the pattern on the box has been achieved.

This isn’t by any means an easy thing to do (trust me I’ve tried)!

Dioctipoid provided a good delivery service with the products arriving in just a few days. I was presented with a lovely surprise, when discovering I’d been sent not one but two puzzles, the Dioctipoid 1.0 & 2.0 with of course 1.0 being the easiest (well, so they claim)!

I decided that, as not to over excite the Little guy, I’d hold back on giving him the second puzzle, this would also allow him to give the first puzzle his full attention.

The first puzzles (1.0) requires the player to make a pattern of stars, I must admit that while Little man embarked on his puzzling mission, peace and calm was restored in the house (well, for a few hours at least)! I decided that while Little man got to work on the puzzle, I’d sneak off to the sanctuary of my bedroom/come office and engage in a spot of social networking, however, this didn’t happen! Nope, instead I found myself having a pop at puzzle 2 myself & believe me this was almost as addictive as twitter.

Did I solve the puzzle? Did I heck! I found myself stating out loud “It’s a fix, it can’t be done” (of course it can)! I just couldn’t do it! I admit, I did get a tad frustrated (see picture below)!

However, Little man did, with the use of logical thinking and patience he managed it fine, completing puzzle 1.0 in a few short days. Little man took lots of breaks and didn’t sit up working on the thing in till the small hours (unlike some I know)! His still working on number two which he was pleased to receive, me however, I gave up and started on puzzle 1.0, did I finish it? The shame, of course I haven’t… You can’t be good everything you know!

Dioctipoid are aimed at children aged 8+ and is a challenging puzzle for both child and adult alike! Each Dioctipoid comes complete with a special token which should be retained as these will enter its owner into a spectacular online Gala phase of Dioctipoids planed competition which has been rumoured to offer a major prize.

We love this funky puzzles and are having awesome fun trying to solve them, they are great for children with Asperger’s and I can see us get others. To checkout Dioctipoid for yourself click Here

%d bloggers like this: