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Obsessional Overload

14 Apr

So we are around a week and a bit into the school break. Alice will be returning to school on the 19th April with little Man returning on the 21st two days later than his peers as a result of his current Exclusion. I feel as if the return to school is a million years away. Little Man has kept us busy and to say his been a little demanding would be an understatement.  His routine has gone a little of the wall these past few weeks. Since his first exclusion I’ve noticed his sleeping is once again on a downward spiral . This is with the use of Melatonin. If he over rides it than we are in trouble for the night. No sleep results in a real pain in the back side for the day that follows. Like any human being a lack of sleep will always result in a lack of happiness! Yep he transforms into this walking time bomb. You want your head to remain on your shoulders than best stay clear of Little man when his in time bomb mode.

Over the past week I have again noticed an increase in his obsessional behaviour when it comes to buses. It has gotten so bad that all he wants to do is ride on the buses up and down the road we live on. The friends he has made lately have knocked and asked him to play. When he does he just seems to drive them loopy with talk of buses. I have noticed  a decrees in visitors since Sunday. He said he would rather study the buses where Jordan just wants to go park and climb up trees. Alex just wants to play fighting games. I just don’t want him to stop mixing with the friends he has made. It wasn’t easy for him to make these friends and to see them slipping away is hard. But then if they are real friends they will understand and be there waiting to play once the obsession settles. But kids will be kids and at  least he isn’t being bullied for his obsessed ways. He really has been on a bus mission from the moment he wakes up till the moment he sleeps. I’m hoping it wont get in the way of his learning at school but then again he isn’t doing much of that lately.  lets just hope he can do a full week without exclusion. God he needs educating and I need a break. I’m not going to feel bad when admitting that. I’m not super mum and don’t we all feel this way as we near more to the point of the return of school?

Fighting yep there has been a fair bit of that happening at our house these past couple of weeks. Little man and his sister are at it consent. Well it feels consent. I’m sick of hearing my own voice telling them to give it up. Any little thing they end rowing. Little man is so controlling and becomes so angry if she don’t play by his rules then all hell breaks out. Marriage! I feel sorry for the woman who marry my Little man. Ok I wish him love and happiness in his adult life but he is gonna drive them ladies crazy. Everything has to be done his ways, His way or no way. Alice seems to give as good as she gets lately. Can’t blame her as she spends so much of her time being bullied by her big brother. She told him if he carried on she would poke him in the eye! He laughed and said go on then. Well to cut a long story short she did. He stood shocked with his month open before leaping of the sofa and chasing her up the stairs. Um yes good times.

Yes it really has gotten to that time where I’m longing for them to go back to school! Never mind little mans routine suffering mine has disappeared. I’m just hoping for a smooth reintegration back into school. Or mummy could end up becoming a little insane!

EXCLUSION OF AN ASPIE CHILD

4 Mar

So I’m having a pretty good day, till the school contact me.

The rude receptionist at the other end of the phone informed me that little man was being kept in the head masters office and he needed me to come and collect him right away. What the hell, Here we go again. I had only just returned from the school five minutes before as I had to collect some papers from the office and sign a form for little man to see an outreach working that dealt with Aspergers and behavioral problems. She was due in now why couldn’t she do something to help ? After all it’s her job. I was starting to feel like a yo-yo my poor 11 week old son needed his feed yet I’m off out again. Lucky for me I was staying with family due to ongoing plastering works at home so at least I could count on mum.

I marched into that school with steam flying out my ears. I didn’t even look at the receptionist as she was walking a thin line with me. My main concern was for my son and me giving her what for really would not help. She could wait ! Just then I see the head who is walking towards me shaking his head. Yer can u belive it I wanted to shake some sense in to the man but some people are a losing battle and getting this man to understand was kinda like getting a one year old to do math. Lets not forget this guy tried telling me little man had no problems at school just at home! yer right I think he needs to eat his own hat.

The head starts by thanking me for returning to the school and leads me to the office the one that I’m seeing a little to often for my liking.

“I really tried but his just gone to far today” Tried I don’t see anyone trying!  He goes on to tell me that little man has sworn at him and the deputy head. He then was asked to come to the office but instead run of through the school kitchen and along the corridor. No one could catch him and all the time he was running he was shouting abuse at the staff. He said it had to stop. He needs to follow instructions and isn’t! Because of this he thinks its best if he is excluded from the school for the remainder of the day and tomorrow. I’m going to court on the 30th March as the school believe his attendance was poor from June 09 to Nov 09. When ever he refused to go I phoned the school requesting help only to be told it’s my own problem. Then at a meeting I’m told that just because he is diagnosed as having Aspergers does not mean it’s a reason to not attend school. The thing was it wasn’t the reason his sleeping problems brought on by having Aspergers was then the problem and In my mind if a parent needs help you offer it! You don’t make them attend court. Now here I stand and you are excluding my child the very same child you said was an angel in school when you blamed my parenting for his behavior at home. The same child you state should be in school everyday as Aspergers is not a reason for none school attendance. Wow how things have changed! I had a solicitors appointment  at 4pm and now I would not be able to attend. God I’m seeing a solicitor for the school having me up in court but I’m unable to make appointments with him as the head and reception staff are always calling me in.

“Miss Parkinson you need to understand I have no choice If Giovanni did not have special needs this would have happened a long time ago” What the hell you trying to justify this. You people denied having received his formal diagnosis but it was sent to six different professionals within the school, a meeting was held with his DR and the school SENGO. Some how I find this hard to belive and to be honest as a school a diagnosis on paper should not of mattered you should have recognized he had special educational needs. As some of you may know I have sent my request to the LEA for an assessment of needs with the schools full support. Now we understand why the sudden turn around occurred. You just want him out! You give up!

The head lets little man into the office and explains whats going to happen. He just looks at me and make no eye contact with the head then turns and tells him his made a big mistake just you wait and see! With this I looked at the head with a smile and said ” Do you see ? My son is a clever child because he speaks the truth! You may not yet see it but yes this is a massive mistake on your part. I turn around and me and little man headed for the door. Just as I’m about to leave the head shouts OH ONE MORE THING. EXCLUDING HIM EVERYDAY AT LUNCHTIMES IS  LOOKING VERY LIKELY RIGHT NOW. I bite mt lip and just nod and walk away. If they really think I’m going to pick him up each and every lunchtime then they are thicker then i fault. I have contacted educational welfare, parents in partnership, the governing body, and the LEA. I also plan on contacting my local MP.

When speaking with little man later on that evening I discover that it all started when he stuck up for his little sister when she fell out with another child. He was trying to be there for his sister.

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