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#innocentinspires When I grow up I want to be…

7 Nov

The world can be a pretty inspirational place, full of inspirational people. When the guys at innocent asked what inspired me to do what I’m doing today I made myself a cuppa and got writing.

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I’m not yet a budding Entrepreneur (Yes, do note my wording!) However, I am in the process of making big decisions in my life ones that will change things significantly.

I currently volunteer and I’m a full time carer for little man but this has given me time to be at home and really work on where I’m intending on going.

A lot of what I’m doing is inspired by my love of writing and I’m currently writing a book that despite its planed completion date having been and gone I’m still hard at it and very determine.

My passion for raising awareness for autism and sen is also something that has really contributed to the decisions I make today in terms of where I’ll be going from here.

I may not have fully achieved what it is I’m wanting to achieve just yet but I’m a firm believer that things only work once your 100% ready to make them happen.

I have however been working incredible hard these past 3 months so that I am able to finally share my ideas and hopefully make my business a raving success. My first product line should be introduced on line early next year and I can’t wait.

My attention was then turned to the children. I asked them “What do you want to be once your older?” my daughters answer surprised me where little mans was really expected.

Alice drew me a rather fabulous picture of her desire to become…. Wait for it… A successful blogger/writer inspired by mummy.

Alice draws herself blogging

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I explained that regardless of how great blogging is in most cases it doesn’t really lead to a sustainable income. That’s when she pointed out that she would write in other areas too… Maybe for Monsters High magazine. Well, I should have seen that one coming!

Little man has stuck by his plans for his big successful future for as long as I can remember. He tells me he will never work for someone, will own hotels and transport, he will be a well known businessmen a top Entrepreneur.

He may only be 12 years old but would it shock you if I told you his expressed such desires to take over the world since he was 7. I remember him telling me he inspired Richard Branson (yes, he did get that the wrong way round but its funny all the same).

Little man also shares a very adult opinion, one that many adults on the autism spectrum can likely relate too. He states that being someone with Aspergers Syndrome is likely to affect job opportunities and he would therefore rather avoid such knock backs all together. I think he ideas and opinions based on the world of work comes from a lot of what he reads. However, Little man felt he was rejected while in mainstream school… After all can you imagine your own head teacher stating you cannot be involved in school activities because your a health and safety risk?

I think my children have some amazing ideas and as their mother I’d do anything to help them achieve their goals and dreams regardless if they change from now till then.

I’ve always told my children you can be absolutely anything that you want as long as you want it enough, work hard and believe in yourself! My first job is to prove this to them by showing them just how its done.

My innocent biscuit… Yummy

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Summer Dreams

3 Jun

Summer dreams… I’m lying on a sun lounger some place hot, the sea or pool ( I really don’t mind which) is a stones throw away. I have a generous Glass of pims in one hand and a good read in the other!

So… Ordinary, wouldn’t you agree?

I used to have summer dreams like that of the one above. But dreams change, they no longer seem like dreams, more like desires that I long to achieve. My dreams are simple in theory but often unreachable in life. Not because they are not possible, they are… If I give it all I have to live them.

Now although a holiday is much needed by all, it’s something that I’m sure will not be happening this summer, so as the days draw on I begin to kick my own backside and remind myself that I have a dream that needs fulfilling, that dream… To have a well plan out and organised summer!

Sounds boring and yes somewhat pathetic, but for me it’s the key to a long and happy summer. Doing things on a whim is a speciality of mine but such a skill is unethical when your a parent to a child with Aspergers Syndrome.

Some days you wouldn’t know my son was on that Autism Spectrum. Like everything some days are more difficult than others.

Little man is currently on half term as is his younger sister ‘Alice-Sara’ (I’m bracing myself for plenty of sibling wars!) Now, although this week will get little man into a bit of a mess with the lack of structure and routine, (Yes, I do try but I can never complete with the structure of school) the summer holidays are for a much lengthier time period, this huge change and the pending anxiety about the coming new school year (new class, teacher, ect…) can mean an explosive 6 weeks.

So, what’s the solution? Well, I wouldn’t call it a solution, but a semi one at least. Organising activities in advance, making little man aware of where and when we’re going, good organisation and structure is the key to his and of course my own sanity.

You would think that I have learned my lesson by now.There’s been plenty of trips and occasions that haven’t been planed as well as they could have been. We’ve had our fair share of meltdowns as a result.

I maybe a mum of a child on the spectrum, but I’m in no means perfect and the whole organisation thing is not my strongest trait.

So… Although the dream of a day spent soaking up the sun’s ray, while relaxing on a beach some place inviting, still exists, it’s in the back of my mine it will stay.

If all is organised and I start booking trips and planing days out now… My summers dream could go something like this…

A day out as a family some place nice, we would laugh and smile, eat a picnic fit for a fussy eater. The children would run around having fun, playing games together… No screaming, arguing… No violent meltdowns, abusive language! There would be no tears, no anxiety, just enjoyment being had by all! And If I could control the weather and public transport I would!

Ok, almost, because life isn’t always so simple, anything can happen! A sensory related trigger, a delayed train or even a wrong turning (getting lost is my little man’s pet hate)! But I will try as by planning and preparing that summers dream will be that much closer to a summers reality!

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This post was inspired by this weeks Britmums blogging prompts! If you’re a blogger why not check them out and join in.

I’m a mummy but I still have hopes and dreams.

29 Oct

 

I don’t normally participate in blog prompts, however, I had to write this post having been Inspired by the fabulous Britmums and there blogging prompt of the week.

  So the prompt? 

What are your hopes and dreams for the future

 Now, I read quite a few of the post, written by my fellow mummy bloggers and although they were all great post written by some excellent bloggers, I felt most had the same dream, for their children to be happy or successful! 

Now before I put my size 5 heels in it, of course I want the same thing for my own children, what mother wouldn’t? However, don’t you think our own mothers wanted the same for us? Therefore, don’t we owe it to them, to fulfil our own hope’s & dreams, or at least try?

 I’m not stating that it’s wrong to have hopes for our children, I have a string of them, the list is as long as my arm, I want them to be happy and healthy above all else. If my children are successful then that’s great, but the happiness & health is what matters to me most! However, I do hold dreams for myself too and I owe it to my own mother as well as my children to a least try to fulfil a few of them!

Yes, like many, my hopes and dreams have changed with age, but I still have some nonetheless. I hope that one day I will be able to complete a law degree, I hope to write a book, a book that will help and inspire other parents who like myself have a child on the autism spectrum. I hope to get my ideas out there in the big wide world, have my own brand maybe, one that takes off and becomes a raving success. I hope that my children look at what I achieve and feel somewhat inspired to live their own dreams, and do so for themselves amongst all others. 

And if all the above don’t happen? Well, at least I can say I tried and really that’s all that counts!

My children won’t need to be pop stars or actors, just good people who know what they want and set about making it happen. I look at where I am as a 29 year old woman and there is so much I wish I had already done. Yes, Life is busy and I’ve already ticked a few of the boxes by becoming a mother to three awesome children, but I like to think I’m more than just a mother and hope on day I’ll be able to prove that to the world. 

Life is full of amazing and inspirational people, you don’t have to be a film star, published author or spend your life doing things for a good cause to be an inspiration! The secret, I believe is, “motivation” you have to know what you want and chase it like there’s no tomorrow, If you don’t succeed then at least you know you tried and that’s what makes a mother proud.

Hopes and dreams are not handed to you on a platter, you work for them! I’d love to win the lottery and buy a beautiful house to leave my children when I’m all dead and buried, but it wouldn’t be half as satisfying as having earn that house, don’t you agree?

I have a whole bundle of hopes and dreams for myself and that of my children. I want more from life as it has so much more to offer. 

I am thankful for what I have, but there is no shame in wanting that bit more, if you don’t want for nothing then that’s great, but if you do, then why not chase it and make it happen. We are never to old for dreams, and who says dreams can’t become a reality? 

Well, I’m not ready to give up on trying for mine, regardless of being a parent, I want my children to look up to me, there is little shame in that!

If you want to reach for the stars, then reach!

It’s only you who can make it happen. 

BLOG ALERT!

4 Mar

I have been thinking about starting a blog with google’s blogger for quite sometime now.

Well today I did! In fact I started two. I know what your thinking, How on earth will I find the time to use them? Well I fault the same thing to once I had signed up for them! But ( There is always a but with me, have you noticed? ) I just love blogging! Anybody fell that way? I’m sure I can do it despite the two children, hubby and dog. It’s not like it takes forever! I find once I start a blog I have these post ideas constantly running through my head. Believe it or not guys they are not always autism related. 

So let me tell you a quick something about each of them! 

DON’T LOOK TWICE!

Right this is the one I’m looking most forward to using. I only started it yesterday and already have posted a few post. It’s concerning another of my interest which is psychology ( I bet that wasn’t hard to guess:) ) So on this blog you will find me writing about Mental health, Autism, Dreams, and all stuff concerning the mysteries of our mind and how it shows in our behavior. SO LOOKING FORWARD TO MAKING THIS BLOG INTO SOMETHING GREAT. 

The second blog which I must add is very random is named

GIRLS JUST WANNA HAVE FUN

As I pointed out a very random kind of blog. It states although I’m a mother this don’t mean I’m unable to have fun! So this blog is for all the other stuff. My art, Fashion, Great nights out ( When I have them ) Great reads, what I’m watching on u-tube, make up, iphone stuff and much more. 

Will list the links for the sites in the sidebar under MY OTHER BLOGS. So would be great if you would all pop along some time and show some support:) No pressure!

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