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Cybermummy meet and greet

21 Jun

So, here’s my post as part of the CyberMummy 2011 meet and greet.

For all those that don’t yet know what Cybermummy is, then where have you been? Cybermummy is the one and only place for a mummy blogger to be seen at on Saturday the 25th June… Oh my gosh that’s this Saturday, can you tell I’m excited?

It’s a place for all parent bloggers including fathers, to join one another, improve their writing skills, meet with brands, gain blogging tips, participate in fabulous workshops or just mingle

So, as some may know I finally got my golden cybermummy ticket a few weeks back. Yes, a certain fairy godmother offered to send me to the ball, however luck wasn’t on our side as we were unable to get our hands on a ticket (due to the sell out) Then like magic I won a ticket from those lovely people at Lego Duplo via the Cybermummy website.

To make things that much better, I got myself a sponsor! The awesome site LondonTown.com. These lovely people will be putting me up in a hotel meaning I’m gonna get some much needed sleep, and although I will miss them three little angels of mine…. Sleep is really needed!  I’m just hoping Little man doesn’t have to any meltdowns in my absence.

 So, Here it goes…

Name: Claire Louise

Age: 29

From: London

I am a: Cybermummy virgin

Cybermummy sponsor: LondonTown.com

Blog Name: A boy with Asperger’s

About: Parenting three children, one with Aspergers

Blogging since: 2008

Hair colour: Blonde

Height: 5,7



What I will be wearing at Cybermummy: Unsure but likely it’s going to be something black

 Likes: Writing, reading, art, shopping for bags and shoes, raising awareness for autism, good food (only if I’m not cooking it) & lastly, shaking my butt to some tunes (Oh yer… I love to dance)

 Dislikes: bitchy school gate mothers, eggs, lairs  (In no particular order)

 Most excited about: Meeting fellow bloggers &  Mad blog finalist

 Most worried about: Being a Cybermummy loner (don’t all us CyberMummy virgins worry about this)?

 Twitter name: @Clairelouise82

Sponsors twitter: @LondonTown

 Facebook: you can find the link in my sidebar

 Facebook fan page: A boy with Aspergers

That’s about it! So to save me from becoming that CyberMummy Loner please come and say hello.

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Falling Apart

15 Jun

This post is totally extemporaneous! There was no draft, theme nor great idea.

Yet here I am writing, undecided if I’ll even publish this! I guess if you’re reading this then I must have got adventures, that or damn right brave!

You see, right at this very moment I’m apprehensive, somewhat stressed, extremely exhausted and in all earnestness, a little angry. I therefore apologise in-advance for any rambling nonsense that makes no sense to you, like it does to me.

Right now I feel the need to express myself, yet I have this inability to verbalise what it is I need to say. Who it is I need to say it to is beyond me… So, I’ll just write it here instead!

These past few weeks have been crazy, I dunno where my heads at right now! One part of me has been excited about all the great stuff going on, what with the Mad blog awards and the achievement of having been shortlisted in two categories, “Most Inspiring” and the big one “Blogger of the year. Then there’s the fact I’m off to Cybermummy on the 25th thanks to the lovely people at lego duplo! The other part of me resembles that of a total stress head.

I know we all have weeks like these, the not so good ones, but I’m really struggling to get my mind frame as it should be!

Sometimes I read post and comments that relate to myself and the blog… Some write some awesome things, giving me credit for the way I parent and handle life’s challenges. Although these comments uplift me, encourage me and make me smile, I somehow feel a cheat for allowing such presumptions to be made.

Why? I’m no super-mummy, far from it! Sometimes I questions my ability to do this whole mothering lark, but don’t we all at some point? I know I’ve come a long way emotionally in these past few years, I’ve had to! Yet there are them times I feel like I’m running on a treadmill going faster and faster, so fast I can’t keep up. I keep going till suddenly someone presses the button and I fall of! When I’m off, I struggle to get back on.

People need to know the whole me, I’m human though sometimes I feel far from it. I make mistakes and sometimes I wish I had done things differently!

To think that a great deal of you find me and the blog inspiring means more to me then some will ever know. Days such as yesterday I fail to see myself in such a light, especially when I found myself absconding to the safety of my bedroom, closing the door behind me, sinking to the ground and sobbing like a baby! Take last week for an example… Having just attended another independent assessment (OT) with little man (not a great assessment) Little man become anxious when I took a couple of wrong turns getting us a tad lost! A stream of obscenities were thrown my way. They kept coming at me faster and each more shocking than the last… I was stood outside Loui Vuitton on New Bond Street, sobbing into my hands (and this wasn’t over my realisation that the beautiful Loui Vuitton oversized bag in the window would never be apart of my life, though this did make me a little sad) I should have been calming him, ignoring the shocked faces of the appalled public and as I normally would… Got on with it!

It takes a lot to get me on this level, things a lot worse have happened in-which I’ve dealt with in a calmer manner! You take so much, then that one thing just does it, makes you snap… no matter what the magnitude! These are the times I am overcome with guilt and question my ability to manage! I then feel selfish that its me I’m thinking about as opposed to him! Do you know how hard that is?

Wow, seriously I haven’t slept in nights, maybe that’s my reason for this, “I feel so sorry for myself post” Maybe this attempt of a post, will be one I regret! The post you wished you never wrote… We all have them… Don’t we?

I’m not to sure how this post is planning out, what it sounds like! I’ve not read a bit back nor corrected one-off those spelling mistakes I see as its been so kindly underlined in red (cheers Mac) I’m In a zone… and for all I know this could sound like complete and utter, “Shit!” I feel a certain amount of pressure removed from my head, does that mean I’m almost done? All these worries I have manifesting together as to create one huge headache have been difficult to shift. I have struggled to partition each into its own place dealing with each issue one at a time… In actual fact… I feel close to crazy!

Little man has had a grand total of nine explosive meltdowns in a little under a two-week period. These have impacted on the whole family, each one off us getting to grips with it as best we can. Meltdowns have been had for an array of reasons, such as… Stressful OT assessment; the issue of me getting lost on the monopoly board; a line failure on the jubilee line; a broken down bus; late school transport and complete lack of sleep.

These issues may well seem trivial to some, but to little man they are real everyday factors that cause him distress. Can you imagine how hard that must be, the loss all control, the struggle to self regulate your emotions… I wish people would consider such things when staring, judging or worse laughing, this only makes him worse. (Yes, sadly some find it amusing!)

As well as the meltdowns I’m unhappy to report a more worrisome issue! Given Little man’s anxiety and his inability to get much sleep has unfortunately lead to two panic attack. I felt both helpless and guilty at not being able to keep him safe from such horrible attacks. Both occurred in the small hours and when he begged for an ambulance, I almost complied! Being a person who has suffered from these attacks from a very young child… I was able to distinguish  between a medical emergency and anxiety. He felt at ten years old like he was having a heart attack as electric had entered his body and was unable to get out. (It hadn’t bless him.) He paces, opened doors and windows in a desperate attempt to breathe … It took some time but we got through them together!

Sleeping like a baby, I looked at my child laid on my bed now so peaceful. I wondered what I needed to do next? What does the foreseeable future hold for my child? I slide down the bed to the floor cried, not just a bit but more tears than I knew possible… I felt so lost a feeling I haven’t felt for such a long time! I was worried what tomorrow would bring, would he endure the same thing?

Right now I hated the big man In the sky, for my son is just a child, why can’t he be left alone!

Once upon a time

6 Jun

Honestly people I’m not a fruit the loon! (well, sometimes I am but that’s beside the point)

This below is a true story and it goes something like this…

Once upon a time there was a mummy called Claire who had three little children and wrote a blog called, A boy with Asperger’s. (Yes that would be me)

She discovered that fairies really did exist and not just the kind you find in fairytales but fairy godmothers who went about on twitter!

You may all have the image of a lady with a big sparkling dress, a wand and a crown of gems, “Maybe she has I really don’t know!” What I can tell you about her is that she totally selfless with a massive heart!

The fairy godmother is a mummy to two boys, lives in Wales and goes by the name of Tattie Weasle (well at least we know this to be her name in cyber space)

Claire believes that you meet very few people in life who are happy to do something for someone else for nothing! These people are hard to come by and in her experience she’s only ever met a small handful.

In all honesty Tattie the fairy godmother is a lady Claire knows little about! This is because she has only come to know her through the world of social networking! However Claire knows that the fairy godmother writes her own blog and the reason she knows this is because she discovered it back in the beginning of May.

One of Claire’s twitter followers posted a tweet about a blog giveaway happening over on tattie’s blog so she popped over for a look and discovered that Tattie was giving away a ticket to Cybermummy. For those that don’t know Cybermummy is the UKs premier blogging conference devoted to parent bloggers. Did Claire wanna go? Come on of course she did!

It was starting to seem that everybody but Claire was going, she couldn’t afford the ticket what with the three children and little funds to justify it!

To cut a long story short Tattie wasn’t just giving away her own Cybermummy ticket but also a £100 to cover expenses. Tattie was no longer able to attend the event as her son had a sports day on the same day. Cyber Space was going nuts as parents were trying to get there mitts on a ticket which was a challenge as Cybermummy tickets were completely sold out  and had been not long after being released. Claire saw a few tickets up for sale by those bloggers that could no longer attend but being in the same situation she was unable to spare the funds to buy one.

So, there was Tattie the Fairy godmother with her heart of gold, giving her ticket away to somebody that needed it! I know you lot think you know where I’m going with all this… Claire won lived happily ever after! No, that was not the case! Things were a little more complicated then that!

In-fact Claire came second! The ticket went to another deserving candidate yet in a strange turn of fate she didn’t need the £100 expenses! Tattie picked up her wand and started granting more wishes.

Again I know you lot think you know where I’m going with this! Yes, the fairy godmother did fly on over to twitter, send Claire a DM and offer to buy her a ticket (an amazing thing to do for someone you’ve never met), however they still had the problem of finding one!

Now the fairy god mother was able to fund Claire’s ticket but as the days ticked by they were no closer to finding one! The fairy godmother was amazing, she tweeted and jumped upon every opportunity presented (sadly there wasn’t many) Tattie even entered a competition to be given the chance to bye a ticket from someone who could no longer attend. Sadly this was unsuccessful.

Claire found it lovely to have a fairy godmother by her side and even if she didn’t succeed in her quest to get to Cybermummy she still had the knowledge that someone who had never even met her had made it their mission to get her there! The fairy godmother posted on social networks looking to buy a ticket for Claire. She had shown Claire that such people exist, true fairy godmothers!

But wait the story doesn’t end there and again it doesn’t end how you would expect!

A good month or so later  just when Claire had thought all hope was lost she tweeted her plea into twitter space and within a few minutes she had received a tweet informing her about another competition!

Claire rolled her eyes but surly anything was worth a try! This competition was on the Cybermummy website and was in association with Lego Duplo.

Lego Duplo were offering two bloggers the chance to win a Cybermummy ticket! All Claire had to do was state why she loved Lego Duplo and why she wanted to attend Cybertmummy. Well, she was glad it was Lego Duplo and no one else as this made her answer an easy one! Claire’s Little man who has a type of autism called Aspergers just loved the stuff and could build buses with it for hours. Claire told them just that and gave her reasons for wanting to attend, alongside her struggle to obtain a ticket and guess what?

Something magical happen! It was the kind of magic that could be found in fairy dust…

CLAIRE WON!

Eighteen days before the event she finally got her mitts on a ticket to CyberMummy 2011.

So, what followed!  Of course she did a victory dance (this is becoming a trade mark of hers and one she promises to do if she wins the Mad blog awards), she then dashed of to inform the fairy godmother before tweeting like an over excited kid at christmas.

So there you have it… Lego Duplo saved the day! However the fairy godmother blessed Claire with her kindness and proved to her that fairies really do exist… for that she will remain forever thankful!

Thank you Tattie Weasle

The end!

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