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Sleeping Issues

16 Jul

Having a child with Aspergers can be difficult but having one that hardly sleeps is Incredibly trying.

For this reason little man’s school attendance is suffering and so am I… Big time!

Its one huge battle to get the boy to bed of a night and another to get him up. His like a monster in the mornings, swearing and throwing things about.

As his grown so has the problem. His now as tall as myself so grabbing the covers, carrying him out of bed and then physically dressing him is no longer an option! Well that is unless I want to live! Not only am I going to land myself back in court for little man’s shabby attendance I’m also struggling to get anything done during the day. Shopping is already a nightmare and I’ve given up on taking little man some time ago. This means just a quick trip to the shops has become some type of mission… One I’m not to keen on taking.

With this I have no choice but to visit the doctor and request a prescription of melatonin. Its not fantastic but given his had a good break from it, its effects will be beneficial over the next week or so at least.

So… If all the above wasn’t bad enough Little man is now spending his days bullying his younger brother rather than getting an education. Its not bully as such, its just his need for control and when his not at school or in bed catching up on the sleep his lost his doing exactly that… Trying to control everything everybody does. Its tiresome!

We are now in July and what happens in July? Little man starts preparing for his big day… Aka his birthday. Its three whole months away but that don’t make a difference… Not for the little man it doesn’t!

This year his talking computers… Macs to be precise. Yes, his not asking for anything cheap here and I think I preferred it when he was asking for them strange and wonderful items such as batteries and staple guns! There is one good thing to come out of the obsessive birthday chatter! If he wants something on such a grand scale his going to need to go to bed earlier and attend school everyday! After all he only has a week left till the holidays.

So… There you have it! Sorry its such a mini update but as you may have noticed, I don’t have so much time to get on and blog these days. Here’s hoping the next instalment is a little more upbeat.

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How My Son With Aspergers Has Changed Since Attending A Special School

10 Dec

So, little man has been in his independent special school for children on the autism spectrum for some 18 months now! With this, I’ve decided to write a post concentrating on all the positive changes I have noticed in this time.

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1 – Improved confidence: This is one of the most apparent changes in my child. He is more confident in his own skin. Special interests are celebrated and his not afraid to share his likes and dislikes with peers. His no longer ashamed of his differences and is more able to see them as positives rather than negatives.

2 – Moods: Little mans moods are less impulsive than before which is because he feels much happier than he did when he was in a mainstream school. Ok, he can still become angry and agitated at the flick of a switch but I can defiantly see a reduction in this type of behaviour.

3 – Attitude to learning: Its very apparent that Little man is more willing and excited to learn. I love it when he comes home raving about the stuff his has learnt. His enjoying his lessons and finishes his day with a head full of new knowledge that he just can’t wait to share.

4 – Improved social skills: Yes, we still have a long way to go but his learning new skills daily. The fact that he actually has a whole school period every day dedicated to social skills training means the improvements are really starting to show. He tends to be less impulsive with the things he says to others. Overall he has a better idea when it comes to behaviours that are socially acceptable.

5 – Willingness to attend school: Little man actually looks forward to school now! The only issues we still have is with his sleeping leading to some issues with attendance. However, the fact he likes his school and wants to attend is just amazing!

6 – Better Understanding of Aspergers: He has a knowledgable understanding of Aspergers Syndrome and feels Better able to talk about how the condition applies to him.

7 – Independence: Since attending his new school little man has noticeably become much more independent. He still requires lots of visual clues but is more independent when it comes to creating and following a routine that his independently applied to a visual schedule. This is a really big achievement for Little man and is a huge step in the right direction therefore giving me more confidence that he will cope OK, when it comes to his life as an independent adult. His even cooking on a weekly basis. He brings home some amazing dishes that put my own to shame.

8 – Better reactions to sensory stimuli: He is still very sensitive in many ways and to a certain extent probably always will be. We have noticed some slight improvements in this area though, which is mainly down to the work he does with the occupational therapist while at school.

9 – Engagement & concentration: Although his attention span remains pretty short he is slowly showing some improvements in concentration levels. Good relationships with teachers and a high teacher to pupil ratio means he is engaging in tasks and able to complete work projects more so than he was before.

10 – Willingness to try: This is a change on a huge scale. Little man is more willing to give things a go in all areas of life. His added confidence is a big contributing factor. The fact he is less scared of failing means his less scared of trying. Little man was sadly discriminated against while in mainstream school and this lead to problems both at home and in his learning environment. The fact he is finally moving on from this, making friends and enjoy his school life is simply awesome to witness.

My daughter will be assessed for Dyslexia

5 Jul

Today I had a meeting at my daughters school, I went in thinking I was going to be thrown a load of excuses as to why I wasn’t informed my daughter was on the special educational needs register, but actually things went a little more differently.

You see, all those who have lied to me are no longer employed at the school. The head master whom I had a terrible relationship with due to the discrimination my son received and the SENCO who has lied about both my children’s needs, have left. The new head teacher has been brought in to repair all the damage that has been done and therefore get the school back on track.

I was almost left open mouthed when I realised I wasn’t being feed anymore bull shit. This new head teacher apologised for the fact I wasn’t told stating it was unacceptable. She has looked through my daughters sen file and through some of her work and feels that she should have been assessed for dyslexia!

She has told me she wants to sort this ASAP as to give my daughter the best chance in year 5. Extra help will be provided to enable her to catch up with her reading and writing. We also discussed the possibility of maybe booking her in with an optician to see If coloured lenses could help her read better (it currently takes her a long time to read a book).

I have appointments booked with her class teacher on Monday and the head teacher is writing a letter explaining my daughters SEN, the reasons she is on the register and the help they have been providing her with.

I have put a lot of trust in this school before and been let down badly. However with the new senior staff in place, a temporary SENCO and no sign of anyone who damaged us in the past, I feel that just maybe communication will be better.

I won’t let my guard down, I can’t afford to. I will continue to over document everything, monitor attendance (maybe asking for a weekly breakdown of her attendance for my records) as well as making sure the AWO stays on top of things.

I really want to believe the new head teacher is one that I can fully trust. I have got to a stage where I feel I can not trust anyone and hope that my confidence in the system can slowly be repaired. Surly not all head teachers are bad… Right?

To have someone agree with me that records have not been kept as they should have and as a result I could have actually gone to prison, is a start!

To have an apology is also a step forward.

I don’t know why both the SENCO and Head teacher left suddenly but I am pleased to see the back of them!

I just want my children to go off to school in the mornings and come home smiling. I want a good healthy school home relationship… Just like the one I have with my sons independent special school… Surly it’s not to much to ask, is it?

Unlucky for some.

19 Feb

I have been stressed, moody and on edge so much these last few days but who can blame me.

My life is a soap opera right now. Why is it that god decides to land so much on one person at one time. You can guarantee if one thing goes wrong  more problems will follow. Yes there is the huge issues at little mans school, The added pressure of an upcoming court trail and now to make things worse my home is undergoing massive plastering works involving knocking all the hallway and landing walls back to brick. Can you imagine the amount of dust and dirt? Of course we could not remain living in the house. Harley is just a baby and Little man and his sensory problems well it would have made him crazy.!! But being away from home has also caused its own set of problems. Yes my mother who we are staying with only lives streets away but it could be miles away for all it matters to little man. His routine has gone out the window and his finding it hard to deal with ( So am I ) As always his sister is paying the price for his emotional discomforts. Yep his on the war path and poor Alice is the target. I have been keeping a close eye on him as his been lashing out at her and it’s making everyone really unhappy. I have tried sitting him down and explaining why we need to be here and why it’s important we pull together and fight it out but to him it’s just a massive inconvenience and I have caused his life to tip upside down. Whats worse is dad is not here to help with his melt down as his watching the house why the workmen are there.

I  myself  had a major melt down. The workmen were messing around and not doing the agreed works. These are works that have been rebooked so many times due to problems with poor communication within the housing. It got so bad I was in the middle of a complaints investigation and that was the reason they had agreed to fix all of the problems within the house over a three-day period. Well he was saying nope that’s not what ive been told to do with every single thing I pointed to. I was getting so angry and had to get a manager to come back around. In the end I throw everyone out and phoned the complaints officer in tears. I told him apart from once again not carrying out agreed works I was being spoken to in such a rude manner ( The manager ) He sorted it after I threatened to phone the local paper.  Three children one being a new-born and one on the autistic spectrum living in dangerous conditions would make a great headline. He knew I had a ton of pictures to back me up and having already appeared in the paper after our ceiling collapsed in April 2009 I wasn’t joking. So now all the agreed works would be carried out plus anything else I needed doing. This was a wonderful outcome but meant works would continue for a longer period of time. This could be at least two weeks. A horrid thing for my little man. What an adjustment he would have to undertake. I also didn’t want this to affect him getting off to school of a morning as they return after the half term break on Monday. I would also have to go home and clean like crazy as the dust would be to overpowering for any of the children. When I popped home yesterday I was in tears the house was wrecked. If little man could only see his room he would freak. Worse of all the workmen had let us down again! The lazy gits had not covered anything with dust sheets I really don’t know if all our belongings can be saved 😦

Being at my mums has had an upside. Mum has watched the kids a few times giving me the chance to concentrate on finding a solicitor ( something I was having a huge problem doing ) It seemed all the firms I rang didn’t deal with that type of case I was faced with going it alone. But just when I fault things could not get much worse A solicitor rang and said he would help me. I have an appointment Monday. I really hope that he thinks we can win. I feel sick thinking that school are going to get me prosecuted when they are to blame.

Well lets hope the weekend brings smiling faces 🙂 🙂

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