Being Driven Crackers

24 Oct

Wow… Little man is driving me crackers. This evening his done nothing but talk about wrestling to the point I’m almost smacking my own head against the wall!

His overly obsessed now, I truly never thought anything could come as close as his transport obsession! Obviously I was wrong.

The worst part is how his interest in wrestling is keeping him awake at night again. His back using the melatonin but as usual its not providing much relief. Worse still school inform me that his acting very out of character. It’s been reported that his been saying pretty bizarre stuff like “He would be more popular if he went to prison” this was said as he was asked why he was misbehaving… Another one of his answers was “He gets more respect and makes more friends this way!”

School enquired if it was his medication that could be causing such behaviours… I didn’t think so, but now I’m sat writing this I’ve come to realise that he does actually have more unsettled school days following a night on melatonin.

Anyhow… Back to the obsession that is wresting.

Recently little man discovered a competition on the Internet that is centred around his interest in wrestling. The good think is that the competition doesn’t only relate to his interest but also in that of literacy… Something he is actually reluctant to engage in.

In order to win his dream prize of meeting his favourite wrestler and watching a live show, he will need to complete a number of literacy and wrestling related tasks.This is great as it will encourage him to do literacy but he refuses to let me share it with his teacher. Yet, his literally talked about this competition non stop and has been demanding that we get started right away.

Last night I was in bed sleeping when I was suddenly rudely awaken at the crazy hour of 3.55 am by the little man. His reason for this was to ask me a question, one that apparently couldn’t wait until a sensible hour! The question was “Mum, How many people do you think will enter the competition and how much percentage does this give me off winning?” I swear if looks could kill… I was livid, not that the little man could tell because he just keep asking… On and on and on…

Its not only the competition that’s kind of grating within my slowing brain, its also the non stop noise that comes with having a wrestling mad 12 year old son. Sometimes I could swear we’re experiencing an earthquake (regardless of the fact we live in the UK). The banging and crashing about is just unbearable. I find myself screaming at the top of my lungs for him to cut it out but 99.9% of the time he cannot hear me above his own noise pollution.

I have heard the same tune, the same cheers, and the same sodding intro that all accompany his favourite wrestler into the ring a million times. If its not blasting through the TV speakers its being played full whack on youtube and if its none of the above you can bet your life on it that his mimicking every word therefore commentating the whole intro from memory.

I can look little man dead in the eye and tell him “Sorry son but I couldn’t give a monkeys backside about whatever his name is” yet he will take no notice, continue feeding me with not so fascinating facts on his favourite wrestler! I try to show an interest, I really do but actually it scares me to try as once I’ve started I’m quickly wishing I hadn’t as hours later I’m still trying to break free.

I dunno… Maybe as he ages these obsessional interests will be more self controlled. I hate the thought of him being a young man who totally dominates an entire conversation based around his own interests. Its just not healthy… He could lose out on friendships and relationships.

Nonetheless, with his great ability to learn combined with his social skills training provided by school, I’m hopeful that all will come good in the end.

Check out Little Mans wrestler inspired face paint…

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7 Responses to “Being Driven Crackers”

  1. Zoë October 29, 2012 at 5:29 pm #

    Hi. I came here from Special Needs Jungle. I can empathise! My son who has autism is also 12 and also driving me nuts with his latest obsession, which is unfortunately a negative one. He is obsessed with cameras and CCTV and thinks they all exist to watch him. It doesn’t matter how many times you tell him, he’s still utterly paranoid. I just wanted to say – you’re not alone!!!

  2. Jess October 27, 2012 at 7:50 am #

    Oh gosh I sympathise,I live with obsessions and boy can they drive you mad!

  3. hil October 27, 2012 at 7:35 am #

    I know just how you feel I have a 12 year old obsessed with Only Fools and Horses but he will only watch certain episodes so I know them inside out and he knows them word for word and if he can answer any question asked with a phrase from the show he will.
    we are going to the convention so 5 hours in the car but he is so excited.
    Re the competition – the problem might be why has he not won – I have stopped my son entering any because he doesn’t get why he does not win.
    Enjoy the wrestling!!! maybe you enter mastermind on the subject!!!

  4. Tania Tirraoro October 26, 2012 at 3:58 pm #

    Reblogged this on Special Needs Jungle and commented:
    This is a post from Claire Louise from A Boy With Asperger’s. I met Claire at the BritMums Awards earlier this year and we got on really well.
    What I love about her special needs posts is the honesty, the love and the frustration that we all feel with our little darlings that she expresses so well.
    So, just in case you haven’t seen this already, I thought I’d reblog it here. Have a great weekend
    Tania

  5. jemma October 26, 2012 at 7:25 am #

    I am doing a course on support work in schools and one of my searches brought me to your sight. It has opened up my eyes into your world. I would like to work with children who need help more than others. I don’t know how I will cope but I would like to give it a go. Reading you pieces on here has helped me,see what I maybe up-against but I am still wanting to give it a try and get it to a schools with special needs as I think I would feel better at the end of the day about myself knowing I was able to help a little bit. I will be a volunteer at first but hope to get a full time job at the end of it as I can not carry on where I am as my health is not with me but I do not want to give up just yet and let it beat me or for the tax payers in the UK keep me. When all I hopefully need to do is move out of my current job I’ve been for 12yrs retrain in an non Manuel job and get a new job. Hope to read some more and thank you again for an insight in what lies ahead for me.

  6. mouse October 24, 2012 at 2:40 pm #

    I used to house share with a lovely guy with Aspergers in his late twenties. He had two main obsessions; whilst they would dominate things some of the time he had learnt enough social skills and perspective over the years to understand that not everyone else shared these and was very blunt to his friends, asking us to tell him if he was going overboard. Like everything in life, sometimes he was more receptive to being told but aren’t we all! He also recognised that childhood obsessions were far more intense and was keen to keep things under control as an adult. Self control was definitely an element, but I think as much was a loving social circle and his own confidence to try new things and stick at them. You sound such a great mum that I’m sure Little Man will flourish. It can’t be easy with added teen hormones and subsequent peer pressure whether deliberate or not. Hoping you both get some sleep soon!

  7. Carol Ali October 24, 2012 at 6:50 am #

    I can only imagine how difficult and stressful this must be for you. I can understand the obsession thing. I have it to a lesser degree and I obviously can keep it to myself and not bore everyone to distraction! I admire you as a woman and as a mother. Keep us posted about the wrestling competition! (Sorry! Lol :D)

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