You look at me, your eyes pressed firmly upon me, you do not look away, instead you stare that deadly stare, the one I hate but have to bare!
Are you sniggering? Seriously… Why? Isn’t it time you moved on by?
Shaking your head, Oh, that would be right! Don’t you think I’ve had enough of that tonight?
OK, you’re laughing now… is my child’s discomfort, confusion or happiness, funny somehow?
Leaving? You have an appointment to gossip down by the school, I guess you’ve never seen a child quite as rude as mine before!
Of course I understand, his party invite didn’t arrive, lost in the post you say, yer, that would be right!
He wonders why the children have gone inside, Little man now has his pick of the rides, but sadly the see-saw, he’ll not be able to try.
It’s OK, please there’s no need to explain, I understand, your child is not able to play at our house today, his bedrooms a mess, so his chores he must abide… another time maybe, how about when his 45?
Seriously ladies, he doesn’t bite, his actually house trained, though have a meltdown he might!
Shit… that’s a camera… you’re taking pictures… you twat! A zoo animal he is not! take my advice, go run and hide, because right now, I might shove that camera right up your behind!
God, yes I’m stress! Please don’t suggest…. what I might… Did you have sleep last night?
It’s an excuse, his naughty for sure, look at his mother, I say no more!
Off to the doctors… is Johnny all right? Catch it! I ensure you, that’s not right!
We live in a society where ignorance is breathed like air, one or too may sweetly smile, while others just stand & stare, never in their lives have they seen such behaviour before!
Now, You may have experienced the deadly stare from the eye of a passer-by, as your toddler demonstrates his new skill of throwing himself on the floor! Yes, I’ve seen it, daily in fact, I’ve heard the gasps of horror as my child sets about attacking the neatly stacked tins while on a supermarket binge. I’ve witnessed the shaking heads, the tuts, the suggestions from those who misunderstood the situation! I’ve explained, I’ve cried, I’ve stuck my finger up and smiled, I’ve dealt with it swell, I’ve dealt with it not well!
My child is a boy, an 11-year-old boy… who wants to be liked, his actually quite nice!
I’ve witnessed how a busy park suddenly empties on a hot summers day, the parent that grabs her child and runs away! I’ve lost friends, they faded, disappeared simply ignoring me, hoping I’ll go away
Ignorance is crawl, inflicted by those, young and old, those that don’t know you or worse, those that love you!
It happens… it will always happen! It’s called parenting a child with Aspergers Syndrome, more appropriately… Hidden Disability Syndrome! He looks no different, his ticks and traits, hidden within a mass of boyish ways, but make no mistake when they surface you’ll judge him, you’ll judge me, you’ll judge our life, our family, our values, opinions and sadly you wont stick around and realise your own silly mistake!
This April is Autism Awareness month, with the 1st of April being “World Autism Day” I ask, that on this one day… you see the bigger picture, you take this one day to Google the words Autism and Aspergers, you read with an open mind and an open heart, I ask that you leave the ignorance behind you!
Stay strong. My aspire daughter longed for sleepovers and never had one, we ended up planning birthday treats that did not involve inviting others as it was too painful when they never came.
The good news is she grew up, lives with her boyfriend but is unemployed. Well trained & qualified but no social skills and of course they are essential even for shelf stacking.