I’m no Vicky Pallord!

25 May

Warning post contains sarcasm!

I’m a mummy of three, who doesn’t currently engage in paid employment! My hobbies include sitting on my backside smoking an excessive amount of cheap brand cigarettes while indulging in the awesomeness of daytime television. (it’s my opinion that daytime telly is seriously under-rated in its entertainment value).

When my two older children are in school I generally let my eighteen month old run a muck, while I get my daily fix of Jeremy Kyle. As I trust you all, I will let you into a little secret of mine! “I sometimes keep the two older children home from school due to me failing to get my arse out of bed of a morning, that or I require them to babysit their little brother as to allow me some me time! Yes, this is mainly spent socialising and networking on Facebook.”

So, there you have it! I’m basically a total bum who has chosen to live this lavish lifestyle as opposed to getting a, what’s that word again? …Oh yes that’s it, ‘JOB’!!!!

Can you blame me? Given the toss-up between the two, that is…   A lazy day at home in the company of Jeremy Kyle, or… The long commute on an overly crowded train in a bid to get to work five mornings a week! Sorry… Jeremy wins hands down!

Yer right as if! Please tell me you do realise that the above is nothing other than an example of my twisted humour, a hard injection of sarcasm! Come on people seriously…  I’m no ‘VICKY POLLARD

It’s incredibly lamentable that a large proportion of people in today’s society, will all to often draw such conclusions of those above when it comes to unemployed mothers!

I guess it’s all to easy to assume that the mother on benefits who lives in a council house, doesn’t work because its easier this way. You only have to watch television to see some great examples of the stigma surrounding this type of mother! I’m not stating that I myself don’t laugh till my sides are sore when watching ‘Little Britain’ or ‘Balls of steel’ I’m just stating that it’s a shame that in the reality of things, people everywhere actually see us mum’s in this light!

Well, this may well be the case for some mothers, but it certainly isn’t the case for me! I imagine it isn’t for many others either!

So, do I want to work? In actual fact… I do!

I’m not only a full-time mother to three children (one on the autism spectrum), but I’m also a volunteer adviser and caseworker, supporting parents of children with autism and special educational needs through the process of the SEN tribunal in-order to get their child’s educational needs met. My duties include: Advising parents on their legal rights, helping them make an application to the tribunal, then basically guiding those that need it, through the different stages of the appeal from then on till the hearing. I can’t begin to explain how for me this is an incredibly rewarding position! Its one that doesn’t provide me with any financial gain, no form of income! That’s right! I do it because I’m passionate about helping these families overcome the battle of obtaining educational provision for their children! After all, It’s something we as a family have continually faced.

My little man was a very different child, a deeply unhappy one, up in till we removed him from mainstream in December. His currently in home tuition (supplied at the expense of the LEA), since January this year. He was continually excluded from his old school, I was called to collect him almost daily and towards the end he was taught in isolation. Lucky, Little man is set to start a trail placement at a fantastic independent autism specific school at the end of June. All goes well… The school will be named in part 4 of his statement!

So, here’s my point, I do have one I promise! I’m sure many parents of children on the spectrum will agree with me when I say, “Who would want to employ a mother or a father of an autistic child?” I’m being honest when I say, “I wouldn’t employ me!”

Constant calls from your child’s head-teacher requesting you collect your child immediately! They want you to come in just to have a word with them, or calm your child down during a meltdown! To work would be wholly unachievable! Lets state facts here guys, tell it like it is! What decent company with a boss who is well on the ball, would even consider employing a woman like me?

Come November 2011, this mum will be putting the long-term plan into action, the one that sees her go get the career she wants! Yes, this is the date I hope to start studying for my Psychology degree, “The one I couldn’t start this month as previously planed” (Not enough time, what with Jeremy Kyle and all). My study will thankful be done from home with the ‘Open University’ allowing me the flexibility to care for the children and carry on volunteering.

So, you see… I’m not no ‘Vicky Pallord’ (you couldn’t pay me to wear that shell suit)! More importantly I don’t do any of those terrible things, with the exception of them horrid cigarettes (Yes, bad habit I know!) I’m really just a mum trying to do right by her children! Even if that is under the roof of a council house!

8 Responses to “I’m no Vicky Pallord!”

  1. clairelouise82 May 27, 2011 at 5:54 am #

    Thanks to all that have commented, it’s always great to hear your thoughts. @Janeblackmore thanks for popping over, loving your blog (I have ocd and loved your post about the barbies lol) Hope you find that review product you wanted. Good luck with the Mads.xx

  2. clairelouise82 May 27, 2011 at 5:48 am #

    Thanks for popping over Tattie. I was just talking to my mother on the phone and told her all about you and your amazing gift. Fairy godmothers like you should have nothing but beautiful things happen to you. I know we may not be able to locate a ticket, but the simple fact you were willing to send me to the ball is an amazing gift in itself.xx

  3. rachael May 27, 2011 at 12:50 am #

    Love it! LOL so true though

  4. janeblackmore May 26, 2011 at 8:47 pm #

    Fair point and well made.

    Perception dominates british thinking and most the time it is fuelled by misunderstanding and ignorant thought.

    good for you for doing best for you and your family

  5. Fi (Wonderfully Wired Mum) May 26, 2011 at 11:49 am #

    That was awesome Claire….we have the sme sorts of stigmas over here too….good on you for standing up and telling it like it is. Bravo!

  6. Tattie Weasle May 26, 2011 at 9:37 am #

    I know plenty of Mums who don’t work and live on handouts, they are awful mothers, who spend so much me time that I am surpirsed they even know what their children look like, strangely enough people don’t get upset about these mothers becasue the hand outs are from their husbands…personally I think it is more cause for concern for there can be no excuses, it is pure selfishness!
    Sorry rant over think you are brill! Determined to get you to Cybermummy…..

  7. fighting for my children May 26, 2011 at 1:39 am #

    Thanks for this post. You hit the nail on the head. Alot of people do think we sit on our butts watching soaps, who has time for that???

  8. jess May 25, 2011 at 8:58 pm #

    Here-Here!! People just don’t get it, do they? And the number of mothers of AS children I know who are also struggling with ME, CFS or Fibromyalgia (stress-related conditions, go figure) is incredible. far higher than the general population. And what do we get? £55 a week carer’s allowance. For being available to care for our children 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. That works out to 32p an hour – well below the minimum wage and even far below the pay of the worst paid carer in the employed sector, who must by law receive minimum wage.

    We are saving the governemnt millions. Don’t anybody dare compare us to the Vicky Pollards of this world.

    ps Jeremy Kyle is a minion of the Devil, in my opinion. He is so slimy and horrible and deceitful – he should go and work in the SEN department of a Local Authority. He would be amongst equals then.

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