How could they hurt my little boy

23 Mar

Sunday was a day that my little man is likely to remember for years to come!

Sadly this is not because yesterday was a special day, it wasn’t his birthday, he didn’t attend an exciting event or take part in a fun-filled activity!

No he was assaulted by teenage boys while at the local park with his friend and friends mother!

Now do you understand why he will remember yesterday for years to come?

I didn’t expect the loud knock at my front door! You see my daughter was with my mother who had taken her out for the day, Little man was at the park with our neighbour and her son (little man’s one true friend), having left the door a jar while I was upstairs with my 15 month old I knew the children would just walk in without knocking if they were to return! I didn’t expect anyone else that Sunday afternoon. I instantly knew I didn’t know the person stood on the other-side of my front door without even having opened it! Whoever was there was knocking on the glass window pane in the door instead of using the knocker.

Opening the door my face fell, stood before me was a blonde woman dressed in a police uniform. A thousand things flashed through my mind at once and before anything more was said I already felt like throwing up. No one wants to see a copper stood at their door. The police woman asked, “does a Giovanni Sarcone live at this address?”

Of course my first thought was that they are looking for his father given little man has his fathers name it seemed more likely as what would they won’t with my ten year old boy? When I stated no the police lady rose her brow and displayed an expression of confusion across her face. She then said, ” the child has claimed this to be his address!” My knees wobbled beneath me, I must have turned a ghostly shade of White as she asked me if I felt OK. I explained that I thought they were referring to little man’s father who has the same name, but lives a few roads down with his mother. I then felt my head spin as I asked where my son was?

The police woman who was very nice explain that my son was still at the local park with his friend and his mother, he was safe and would be back shortly. At this point I felt a gush of relief, but she then went on to tell me that an incident had occurred and unfortunately my son had been assaulted by teenage boys.

I felt numb and sick with shock, turns out my ten year old had been playing with his friend and another little boy. As many may know little man doesn’t have the greatest play skills. He was playing police which mainly consists of a lot of shouting on his part. Some older boys around his own age came over and requested that little man didn’t play with their brother anymore. Little man was confused and asked why? the boys told him because he was Ginger and talked funny! Little man told them that he didn’t speak as funny as them and he hated their Irish accent as they spoke like Mr Xxxxxx who is his old primary school head teacher who he dislikes a great deal. They continued to bully him which lead him to call them a name containing a swear word.

This resulted in the boys leaving the park only to come back with their even older brothers. These were teenagers who were at least eighteen years old. One walked towards my son with a stick as if he was going to hit him with it. The stick was dropped on the ground as the teenage boy decided to punch my son in his stomach instead. He punched my son four or five times, this eighteen year old boy hurt my baby, my ‘ten year old baby’

The police woman told me his friends mum had ran over and grabbed my son and tried to get him into her car in a bid to get him to safety. A member of the public (a young guy) witnessed what was taking place and set chase after the Yobs as they run off. This guy also called 999 resulting in the police arriving at the scene very quickly. It was said ‘by his friend’ that the boy hit him four or five times in the stomach, he said my son didn’t flinch, just stood there making a clicking sound with his tongue.

When the incident was over and the police were on site it was only then little man had a meltdown! However this was not over the fact he had just been punched by a eighteen year old lad while a large number of his mates egged him on, but due to the police wanting to talk with him. He started screaming “please don’t arrest me, please” while crying and trying to get away from the police woman. After some time she Managed to calm him down she then asked him his name and radioed through his details. It was only then she established he had Aspergers. Lucky for us this was on file as he had wondered off age 7 where he put himself on the 202 bus (buses being his special interest) after we explained to the police our son could possibly be on a bus they radioed through to the bus company where they made contact with every bus driver in the southeast London area. Within ten minutes the police had a sighting of my son on the 202 bus one of his favorites.

The police woman told me if his AS hadn’t been on file then they would of been concerned with his reaction to them. She also stated that he refused to be touched or show the police officers his stomach. She said he wouldn’t let them bring him back requesting his friends mother return him in her car. I highlighted the fact he looked like an everyday normal boy and that to most his autism could not be seen, with some just assuming his a little ‘odd’ to which the police officer agreed. She advised my son and neighbour to call the police if they returned. However there wasn’t much more they could do what with little man’s dislike towards the police it would be hard to catch and charge them.

Of course I was livid. I was in a state of shock which quickly turned to anger and worry. When she had left I sat on the stairs with my head in my hands and just cried till I could cry no more. When little man returned he wouldn’t really discuss it, he claimed it didn’t hurt so doesn’t matter. He later told me that he was very scared at the time but just wants to forget it now. I just don’t think it’s gonna be that easy. I’m already overcautious when it comes to him going out without me, now I feel to never let him out my sight again.

Since the incident Little man has been acting as a very angry child and yesterday he had a meltdown at the supermarket where he punched me in my side. I don’t know if he understands the seriousness of what happened. I’m in a state of bafflement at how these teenagers think it’s Ok to do such a thing to a ten year old with or without autism/special needs.

Right now I’m very unsure what to do. The police catching the low life scum that done this seems pretty unlikely. I know two wrongs don’t make a right but right now, if given the chance I would love to lay a few punches of my own into the stomaches of the scum bags that hurt my son and see just how they like that!

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13 Responses to “How could they hurt my little boy”

  1. ellen April 9, 2011 at 12:06 pm #

    I hope you and your little boy are doing better. I hope that the witnesses of the assult were able to give a detailed description of the attacker to the police. If the police aren’t solving this case to your satisfaction, continue to check in with the officer in charge and ask what the status of the case is. That way the police will keep on looking for your son’s attacker and not keep it on the back burner. Good luck.

  2. Fi -From the Madhouse- April 1, 2011 at 10:56 pm #

    Oh Claire….that’s just awful 😦
    I can’t even find the words here. I’m so sorry that happened xx
    Hugs (())

  3. clairelouise82 March 25, 2011 at 12:40 pm #

    Hi Gavin
    Thank u that’s a great point and one I hadn’t even thought off.
    I will take him back to the park over the weekend. In the UK a really great campaginer named Anna Kenndeny has created along with some children on the spectrum, a autism ID band. They are brill, funky and I’m thinking of getting Little man one. Thank you Gavin and everyone else for your kind words of support.

  4. Gavin Bollard March 24, 2011 at 8:53 pm #

    That’s terrible news. I hope things get better soon.

    You’ll have to take little man to the park again as early as possible to ensure that he doesn’t develop any trauma (ie: fear of the park).

    It’s also possibly not a bad idea to write to your local paper because a story like that should be widely reported so that other people can be on the alert. You might even get some other witnesses coming forward.

    I’m wondering if I need to get my boys registered with the police now?

  5. Lizbeth March 24, 2011 at 3:13 pm #

    Oh…why do kids do this? They have no idea and at 18 years of age—that’s just wrong. You’re poor little man and you. I’d bet he’s processing things and taking them out on you. I’m usually the punching board when my little one has a bad day. Not that a bad day even compares to this–it doesn’t. I’m so sorry this happened to the both of you. Two wrongs don’t make a right but it would sure feel nice to pummel them into oblivion…

  6. Dani March 24, 2011 at 7:07 am #

    OMG i’m horrified, James has the same reaction to the police, he’s also on file as having AS as he dialed OOO which is emergency here in Australia about 12 months ago and the operator sent the police out to check when he wouldn’t talk to her I was mighty surprised to see the police 4WD turn up at the farm gate let me tell you.

    I would be horrified if someone did that to my baby. I’m speachless. I hope it all works out ok.
    Poor G.

  7. Sheryl March 24, 2011 at 4:05 am #

    What a terrible incident, your poor little boy. I really hope that you can both find a way to deal with the emotional aspect of what happened so it doesn’t linger. I certainly understand you being hesitant to let him go out without you, I am like that with all 3 of my kids, I just don’t feel that anyone else can look after them the same way that I do.

  8. mumtoj March 24, 2011 at 12:38 am #

    I don’t know what to say, bullies are thugs that deserve locking away. Thinking of you both x

  9. STACIE March 23, 2011 at 7:54 pm #


  10. Clare March 23, 2011 at 7:32 pm #

    I hope you and your son find some way to deal with this. It will probably, as you say, remain in your son’s memory for years to come.
    It is sadly unlikely that the perpetrators will be caught – I would just love to give them a piece of my mind! This makes me so mad! What makes these young people think such behaviour is acceptable? The issue of the victim having AS is largely irrelevant – it just makes it even more difficult for him to deal with.

  11. Jamie March 23, 2011 at 6:17 pm #

    I’m so sorry this has happened. Thinking of you both

  12. Ellen Arnison March 23, 2011 at 5:24 pm #

    That’s just an awful thing to happen. My AS boy is 11 and I worry so much about him being vulnerable.
    Is there a support worker or someone from, say, the National Autistic Society who could help write a social story to explain what happened and put it into context?

  13. Gimp Hag March 23, 2011 at 2:51 pm #

    I don’t quite know what to say to you. I’d also like to get my hands on the bullies — may I suggest you contact Anna Kennedy through the ACT NOW group and share your story with her — you can at least make sure people in high places get to here about the day to day life of people with autism.

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