This post is based on my sons understanding of language. Many parents of children with ASD will be able to relate.
Here I’ve taken a few of mine and Little mans memorable conversations in an attempt to highlight just how literal someone with autism and Aspergers can be. Though these are quite funny and harmless, there have been times when little mans literal understanding has fuelled anxieties and caused him a great deal of stress. Growing up little man has struggled to understand jokes, metaphors, and sarcasm, with this becoming more apparent with age. It’s quite stressful at times as he won’t always express that he hasn’t understood, Instead his anxiety will be displayed though highly challenging behaviours. These such behaviours are the reason we as parents, teacher, friends or other should learn to adjust and simplify the language we use. Over time Little man has learnt that when I turned and said to a friend in a stressed out tone of voice “I’m gonna kill that boy in a minute” I didn’t actually mean it! Still it’s rather sad to think that at one stage in his life, he considered his mother the murdering type.
Well, with that I will leave you with some classics.
Mum: “Do that once more, You will not be going on YOUR bus tomorrow.”
Little Man: “It’s not my bus! It belongs to the metro.” (Said why screaming and crying.)
Mum on the phone having a conversation with a friend. “I still have a way to go. I’ve lost a STONE and a few POUNDS so far.”
Little Man a few days later. “Mum did you ever find your STONE and few POUNDS that you lost?”
Walking to school one morning.
Mum: “G you’re FLYING” (Zipper down on his trousers)
Little man: “I’m not flying Mum! I’m walking.” (Said in a very moody tone)
Mum: “Keep it up and you’re going to SEE!”
Little Man: “I can see already thank you” (Easily confused as pure sarcasm)
Mum: “Go wash your face, Its BLACK.”
Little Man “you’re being racist mum”
Little Man “Mum why would someone kill CEREAL?”
Little man: “The man on the news said he was a SERIAL killer.” (G already watching the news as a five year old)